Throw the whole family away and start over. Youre right - they were hazing him. not slashing his tires and hiding his inhaler the latter of which could literally have caused a medical emergency. This is not what men do its what arrogant and immature assholes do. AITA for uninviting my stepdad from my wedding so my brothers could come? Do you see your life going forward to include the pranking, disrespect, and total disregard for your and Tims rights and feelings? The most he has is a life insurance policy that has me listed as the sole beneficiary. Who wants to be with someone who doesn't support them or back them up? Run, Tim, RUN!!! And really if they do anything else criminal Id consider reporting them. You should have stopped this at the very least when they slashed his tires, but even before then, the idea that they need to test his manliness is infantilizing, misogynistic, and toxic as hell. Theyre not used to anyone standing up to them. Being in that environment sounds toxic as hell. I seriously wonder what kind of testosterone hell OP had to deal with growing up. I feel so bad for him and am honestly surprised hes still with you. If YOU don't drive a wedge between you and your family over this, what kind of partner would you be? NTA. This is what I was thinking. Poor guy. For a joke that isn't even funny. i might be the asshole here for overreacting. What if you had to get somewhere fast or had to get to work? Your family is toxic, rude and dangerous! Responding to the Redditor's decision to uninvite his mother and sister from his wedding, thousands of commenters assured the 32-year-old that he was justified in doing so, and dragged the two . Same with our vehicles. NTA, and just go NC with the whole lot - even your mom, because she clearly supports this shit. Cool flex I guess? And what you cannot do is allow this to continue, because Tim doesn't deserve to spend the rest of his life being tortured by your extended family. OP needs to ask her dad what hed think if her future MIL learned she had what could be a fatal allergy to nuts & decided to slip her some to test her womanliness. 3d renders. NTA Sorry, you do NOT deserve to be treated like this. NTA They could have killed him, he should press charges. Again, keep in mind him and I have never once hung out one on one just strictly in social settings. I can't imagine an inhaler being too much different, depending on the severity of the asthma. NTA like at all. Wtf. Imagine the boundaries theyll cross when you have children! So I 28f am getting married to the love of my life. I was thinking that no way in hell I would let that man go alone into the woods with these chuckleheads for 3 minutes let alone 3 days after listening to all the horrible things they said and done. NTA. NTA. Tell him they're for his wife or next of kin. To cut a long story short, I realised quite quickly in my older teen years (17) that my dad manipulated and gaslit me throughout my childhood and my mother was never the villain. Last time I bought a full set of tires I spent about ~$800. NTA. Slashing his tyres? So basically your family members thought it'd be funny to see him end up in a life threatening situation. So much this. Not a prank. Dont just erase them from your wedding, yeet them from your life. Theyd call that future MIL bat-shit crazy & possibly homicidal. Today the victim is your fiance. I told him I need to know if he is coming to walk me down the aisle and have our dance and he said he doesnt know and we will see. Asthmatic here. NTA, the only typical thing about this is typical mail toxic behaviour. Poor Tim. My husband races autocross, our tires are more expensive than I like to think. Hiding his inhaler on a days camping trip? I'm 33 M and I recently went back to college for a BFA. OP mentioned demanding they stop. Let mom know your full feeling and the risks they took. Please review our FAQ if you're unsure what that means. They hid his damn inhaler for 3 days. Dont ever invite them. Aita for uninviting my parents to my wedding; quad cortex neural dsp price; the forest fly command; python flush output; salvage car auction virginia; the book of psalms explained pdf; heineken hoodie; steel pipes suppliers in uae. It's a little weird to feel like this age group of men relies on women to negotiate between them in order to discuss momentary weekness. First have the conversation with your fianc if he even wants them there. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that's been bothering you. They aren't men. Stand your ground, these assholes need to learn their actions have consequences. You need to do more than not invite them from the wedding. Especially if they dont believe his asthma and hid his inhaler till it was too late?? Fuck that that's why I have AAA. You should have cut them out ages ago, if my partner's family had treated me like that I'd given them the finger and said "Nah I ain't marrying anyone who cant stand up for me", trust me when I say that "doormat" would have been the softest of my insults. You will be an asshole if you (how did you doormat of a mother call it?) NTA - they sound like a right bunch of bullies. Really. It's like they're out of It's Always Sunny. They could've killed Tim. They fixed their own cars and were proud of that. I suggest you tell them that you understand that they're intimidated by someone with a real education and who idea of fun isn't dumb jock humour but that you moved beyond such immature behaviour and they're out of your life until they apologise to TIM and if they ever "prank" him again they out forever. What if OP has a child who wants to go to collage. Pranks with medical conditions are never funny. Wtf ! Hiding an inhaler can cause DEATH. I'd protect him & any future kids you have with everything you have in you. To keep the peace they just put up with it. Who the hell slashes tires as a "Prank" unless you're millionaires? You would at least need someone to take you to the store. Like wtf did I just read. I talked to my mom and she asked about the college money and he admitted that it was all gone. Like men. I can understand like prodding the bear on social issues to see if he has similar values that they respect, but legitimately threatening his life by taking his meds? I'd not want them anywhere near me. Your dad should be proud if he actually values those things and it truly is why tested your fianc. Your relatives arent funny, they are aggressive and harmful and your fianc shouldnt have to see them ever again, it is on them to realise the seriousness of their behaviour and make amends. That how they drained mine, too, so maybe I got the wrong term there. I'm so sorry your family did this. Study after study has shown that men presenting with the same symptoms as women are more likely to be listened to, taken seriously, and receive appropriate & timely medical care. Slashing his tyres? The family is lucky they haven't called for a restraining order. tell him that its not his fault , he probably feels that its his fault but you need to assure him that its not his fault that these members of your family are just a bunch of idiotic stupid close minded people. a prank would be like. filling his car with balloons or something. Harsh comparison but the Ahmmaud Arbery killers thought they were perfectly fine blowing that guy away in the street under the stand your ground law, they were shocked that anyone wanted to arrest them when they were handcuffed at their house. Does he have to die before you're willing to go no contact? Tell them that your wedding is childfree and they can come when they grow up. Who carrys 4 plug kits? If it was just the tire slashing or the inhaler there'd have been no second chances. So funny. !1' wankers for more than 45 seconds before my vagina closed up like The Chamber of Secrets. I mean the main reason the men in my family hate doctors is because they dont listen. NTA. not that I fault OP when their family is coming down hard trying to convince OP its just a prank bro. Congrats on your wedding and good luck! NTA. All of them can go fuck themselves. Attempted murder. Have a list and a security guard and be ready to call the police if they show up. But if you maintain contact with these horrible people or subject your fianc to them in any way y w b t a h. Nope, it would be BANHAMMER from me. It's yours. I had an cousin die from cancer because he waited for the tumor that was visible to get so large and spread before getting to the doctor. He deserves a medal for that. You dont realize its abuse until it's to late. There could have been serious consequences for their actions. I idolised and adored my father to the point whereby I resented my mother. Theyve done damage to private property and have threatened the life of your fianc. NTA, and kindly remind your dad, brother, uncle and cousin that they got themselves uninvited. And their results will be used to judge them for the rest of their lives. NTA - no matter what kind of person you are, no one should ever belittle you to "test" how you are. This type of ban/suspension is issued by the Reddit site-wide admins. NTA They slashed his car tires, made him play chess (How does that even determine manly status the hell? I might have bailed by now. if all four tires are slashed you can call insurance to cover it as an attack. Do not invite them to the wedding and time to go no contact. Even if its treatable? Who slashes tyres as a prank? Cut her some slack. It doesn't appear in any feeds, and anyone with a direct link to it will see a message like this one. I hope her step dad has the good sense to withdraw his financial support from the wedding. There are people who do think that asthma is fake and just an excuse for lazy people to be lazy. They've shown they aren't capable, loving, supportive people. #NTA. NTA. Oh my days, what a mess. My relationship with my stepdad has been problematic from the very beginning. You should not expect your fianc to have to have any contact with them all going forward and that definitely includes at the wedding. He's college educated. These People are monsters, NTA and please consider what they might do should you ever have a son. Don't just uninvite these people from your wedding; uninvite them from your and your fianc's lives. Clear vandalism and harassment, and Im pretty sure some kind of theft charge could be leveled against them on the inhaler. Your whole family including your mom sound like awful human beings. I dont know what they intend to prove but they only proved they are mean AH. They at least all need to apologise and show remorse and understanding that they were wrong, along with a promise to stop this bullshit. Honestly that was pretty rude of her but unless her actions were specifically malicious I don't think she is the asshole NAH Your family members sound horrible, I'm so sorry you have to deal with them. And they just showed you they've no idea where the line between pranks and fatal consequences is. NTA. Wtf did I even just read. Holy shit your family is a bunch of assholes. I would cut them off and not look back. Theres nothing normal about this OP. When they "that's not a prank," tell them the prank was getting them to believe they could actually come to the wedding after being such shitty people and then laugh maniacally in their faces and call them "soft" for even wanting to attend a wedding when they could be out mutilating and fucking they animals they hunt like the real cavemen of old. Dont fuck with my medicine. Buy wedding insurance first, add the cancellation policy, then cancel so lost deposits are covered by insurance wedsafe.com (am a wedding planner). Asthma is scary as hell! Just a rug sweeper cause family.. That's only if they were "man enough" to tell her the truth. Do not just uninvite them from your wedding, uninvite them from your life. He has had some health complications straight after and I feel like they blame me for this as well. Thats HUGE. You know they will play a horrible prank during the ceremony. NTA. Learning good boundaries and keeping them is key. TBH, if I were your fianc, I'd probably end the relationship if you DONT go NC with them, because they're literally dangerous to him. Who would want to marry into a family where you're constantly tested based on toxicly masculine standards. Yeah NTA sorry doesn't cut it, what if he had an asthma attack? Same here. OP, how have you not filed a police report?? Risking death because your family is shit just isnt worth it in the long run. you're acting like a responsible adult, he's acting like a spoiled child. What will they do next, cut his brake lines? (jfc the warped mentality has me spinning). NTA by far. People can die from asthma attacks, especially if they dont have access to their inhalers. but the money isnt the problem, im just annoyed with how it all happened. Yeah, NTA. You need to cut contact and tell your mom if she doesnt see why then she gets cut as well. Completely agree. Hiding lifesaving medicine? They will absolutely do this and worse to your kids, to make sure they turn out "tough, not like their father". Good on you for putting your foot down. Look: I know its hard to discover that the way you grew up isnt actually normal or okay, but the way you grew up is not actually normal or okay. Especially with your dad, who will apologize but will lose respect for him. I think this is more of a fuck with me and find out situation. NTA. You are NTA. Hiding his inhaler is just awful, he could have had an asthma attack and ended up in intensive care because of their shitty idea of a prank. she said her step-sister, who has now changed her mind and would like to go to the concert and, as a result, she no longer wants to go with me. This should have been stopped way before it got that far. Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. OP has recognized that her family is toxic in comparison to the 'norm', and she's actually putting her foot down and starting to set serious boundaries BEFORE marrying her SO. At what point during his asthma attack would they be able to tell if he was being soft or if it was real? I have mild asthma and have never needed a hospital (its either exercise induced, or triggered by my having a cold or something and my immune system deciding that while its doing inflammation anyway why not go into bronchitis for 2 months?). Yet they all have immense respect for women and they dont think being able to breathe without an inhaler makes you manly. NTA, they literally could have put his life at risk over a stupid prank. NTA, and im sorry, also FUCK YOUR DAD, as your post says " he was abusive in everyway, but a master manipulater.". They have intentionally tried to belittle him and make him feel like hes not welcome in the family. If I sat there and let one of my weird relatives bully him, or god forbid, put his life in danger, (say, for example, by hiding an important medical device like an inhaler) hed be fully justified in running for the damn hills. And I dont think he ever would have earned their respect - they were just entertaining themselves at his expense. Send them all links for information about consequences of their behaviour regarding his inhaler. But Im gonna take it a step further and say you need to talk to Tim and really make sure that hes ok after all this. Then block their asses. This isn't much different from slipping someone a food you KNOW they're allergic to. Ain't they laughing? Those family members suck. You should cut them off. Hell get seriously hurt one day. Agreed. NTA - I'd tell Mom she'd better stfu and stop enabling or else she's going to be uninvited too. You dont hide someones inhaler their inhaler can mean the difference between life and death. I say elope. What is going to happen if you have kids? After making a decision that tore his family in half, he visited the "Am I the A**hole?" Asthma can be life treating if an attack is not treated. Not to mention dangerous. Until and unless they decide to give a heartfelt apology and change there actions I wouldnt consider wanting anything to do with them. YTA for letting this happen to your fianc. Clearly youre not and your family are acting deranged. She should at least have offered to find buyers for you. what if he needed his inhaler? My dad (50 M) and I (24 F) have had a complicated relationship. Soooo NTA. 4 new tires is in the high hundreds too. "It's just a joke!". We have been together for 10.5 years and they have gotten to see him less than 10 times total. Whats next, cutting his cars breaks? To follow this. Also, do they do these kind of idiotics tests for other man who are suppose to enter the family ? . She cussed me out for prioritizing my hateful and cold hearted brothers over my stepdad and showing him that I'm not worthy of his grace which was really really hurtful for me to hear. NTA and the fact that everybody in your family enables it is so concerning. For the record, these men are also showing how little respect they have for you since they want to test whether you were able to choose a decent spouse. Your family is not doing pranks they are awful bullys and terrorizing him. "However, I figured I . That would instantly be NC for me. They took time to think then gave me an ultinatum stating that if our stepdad is coming then they won't be. By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. Nuff said. Damn he must love you to have continued to be abused. I doubt she will stand up to them further. Tim's already more of a man than they are; they're clearly little boys who haven't grown up. The men in your life are toxic. You would be TA if you invited your fianc's bullies (aka your family) to your wedding. In what world is hiding critical medication and slashing tires "pranks"? And he was abused/ hazed. Asthma can be fatal, that's not a risk I would want to take. Assholes do this. My in laws are great, but that's not something I'd sign up for unless I felt like my wife really wanted me to go for some reason. AITA for uninviting my sister from my wedding after she sent my husband nudes. Just stuck a needle in my back and tapped me like a maple tree. Or your future hubby might. Everyone should be laughing and no one's life should be in danger over one. When the complain have him directly tell them to stop whining and take it like men do. Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. I think the ONLY thing you could do was uninvite them. Not this shit. Feeling like your body is not getting enough oxygen is a scary ass experience, one that I would never wish on anyone. NTA ! Maybe consider going LC/NC for a while. I'd press charges in the same situation honestly. He is young, maybe he will learn in time that the company we keep is, to some extent, an indicator of who we are. How do they not realize that?! It's no joke and can be severely deadly. I would leave them uninvited and strongly consider NC for the future. They really need to understand that their action could have had serious consequence (luckily it didn't). We had a friend die from cancer, because he never went to the doctor for his yearly blood work and checkup. Is he the type of man who is open and honest with you? Yea those are pranks. Your bf seems very chill and must love you very much to have put up with treatment like that. NTA. Sounds like a bunch of dumb hicks bullying a city boy. 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